Anyone that knows me knows that my husband Hoodie is my hero. And those who have spent more than five minutes with him understand why even before they know any specific details about his life. There is just something unique about him that is hard to define. A way of being comfortable in his own skin and making everyone he meets feel at ease immediately.
I knew him before he ever joined the Navy and he was my champion even then. At 17, he was completely self-sufficient, working full time and a living model of perseverance and hard-won knowledge. He had already gone through more suffering at that young age than many experience in a lifetime: including being placed in foster care, a brief stint of homelessness, and varieties of abuse that no child should even know about, let alone experience.
Here’s the thing that makes him truly amazing to me: he is not bitter. Or angry. He has never raised his voice at me or the kids. He had a wonderful career in the Navy and was an incredible mentor and leader. He has allowed all of his experiences (both good and bad) to make him more loving, more understanding, and more husband and father than I could have ever dreamed of.
I am also so very proud of him for his 22 years of service to our country. So much hard work, sacrifice, and dedication. LOTS of time at sea. Many perilous situations that I am so grateful not to have known about until long after they were over. All of it took gobs of valor.
But to be a model of resilience when it would be so easy to play the victim, to be a daily example of hard work and true manhood to the boys and Snarfles, to do justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with God every day…That is what makes him my hero.
In honor of the day I am making him his favorite pastry, apple tarts with cheddar crust.
The recipe can be gotten from one of my favorite baking sites, Willow Bird Baking.
Here’s to you, Hoodie. Happy Veteran’s Day. I love you and am so proud to call you my husband.